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Thursday, December 22, 2005

Of Boys and Buxom Babes

Of late I have been observing a debate on the blog arena regarding the enabling/disabling of comments on one's blog. Some even find the comment moderation thing a little out of tune with the melody of the World Wide Web. They have their reasons and I mine.

What makes a weblog different from your dear diary is that it is your 'personal' space but in public view. You've put up a blog because you want people to read and reread it. If not, your hard disk should suffice. And when people will read it, they will form some impressions and also have questions. The comments give us the opportunity to evaluate our impressionability and ponder over the points raised.

I look at it that way. Appreciation lifts up the sagging spirits and the occasional disparagement lets me know if I'm going wrong somewhere. Both help in making the entire experience more enriching.

An unknown girl had an observation on the last post. What's this thing about boys and buxom babes? She asked.

We always take it for granted that men will be attracted to women, well-endowed ones - more so (ignoring alternative sexualities of course). I'd like to put the entire blame on the hormone called testosterone and conclude with the adage 'Men will be men.' The great father of psychoanalysis, the reverend Sigmund Freud had some observations on this, but always not entirely agreeable.

The practice of men 'sizing up' women superficially, does not seem to please all. In this split-second world, there's little scope to venture any deeper (no pun here, you dirty minds). Porn is a big industry and city supplements of leading dailies are splashed with glossy pictures of alluring women in various stages of undress. Lets face the fact - Sex Sells and sells big. But it cannot substitute substance. Else the sleaze-shows would have a field day and a Microsoft like monopoly.

Sigmund FreudBut this is not an exclusive masculine phenomenon; women do it big time and easily outdo men. Hence the problem (if you'd like to term it that) lies not with the males alone, but the entire human species. In fact even the birds and the bees behave in a similar fashion. Then nature is to be blamed. But Mother Nature - the all giving and all loving - couldn't have possibly got it that wrong. Nature follows no man-made morals, and it's natural for boys to peer at buxom babes and the babes to focus their optics on the handsome hunks. Clothes are also manmade and hence hamper the natural scheme of things, the relative absence of them make things a little better. But their presence raises curiosity and man is a curious mammal. Hence, whenever and wherever the hidden wonders of the world are revealed, there is always a crowd of curious onlookers.

I'm after all a humble human being, can't possibly go against the inviolable laws of nature. I toe the line; I follow my instincts.

The comment behind this post:

>>No diary and no buxom babe

chi. what is it with guys and them reading/checking out women and stuff.

i mean, its almost like its a sign of their masculinity when you hear/read of how men found a certain pic "fit" or whatnot.

The Sun - has anyone heard of it? Its a uk based newspaper which has a topless page 3 model. i believe its the best selling paper there is.

i how/why?!?! does it show how little theyre getting it in person or whatever? what do you get out of looking at anothers private parts. can anyone explain this to me? (i understand its open ended, and if there are replies deemed too rude for my liking, i guess i shall ignore and not return!)

sorry about..erm..that soumadip. if its offensive, please delete, otherwise im genuinely curious with no disrespect intended to anyone.

P.S. Deleting comments is not my forte. It's only spam and the decidedly delirious ones that come close to my axe.


Atul Sabnis said...

seems that Papa Freud has more on his face than on his mind in that pic :)

well written, in fact very well written!

aquamarine said...

I get it...You appreciate beauty wherever you see it...

Shivangi said...

Soumya, don't know what to say... I found the whole post quite funny really! Amusing how guys have to explain why they look at what they look at!
"Clothes are also manmade and hence hamper the natural scheme of things, the relative absence of them make things a little better." hoo hoo hoo... :) hahahaha... in splits!

San said...

A good response :) and I'm pretty sure EAL's curiousity won't die here

Greta said...

Good and well written answer, Soumyadip!
If it was not for this certain mutual desire, there is good reason to believe that the human race would be nonexisting today!

dwaipayan said...

i like it. but i want this post to be elaborate(for a change).....keep posting more like that pics

thalassa_mikra said...

Oh, when I first read the title of the post, I was quite pleased, because I thought you were going to say how women starving themselves to be thin is all wrong, because men prefer buxom women anyway. And then I realized it was about women in various states of undress, not about a little junk in the trunk, some puppy fat, and a little belly wiggle :). I'm fine with both, and if was looking to date a guy, I'd be highly suspicious if he wasn't checking out some girlie pics!

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Gypsy said...

cool post! this is what everyone knows ..both males n females, but may b societal pressure makes some take it as 'offensive' or 'obscene'

Ek Anjaan Ladki said...

hey, sorry for the delay reaction, but i only realised you posted this yday!

thanks for the explanantion(though, i am hmmmming about how sufficient an answer it was(perhaps i should clarify my main points in future)). i mean, its all for well saying its natural(since its the good ol' hormones which dictate our actions and reactions to seeing fit chicks/babes etc) but then has 'societal pressure'(as another poster phrased it) carved out such a state where men dont feel "manly" unless theyve commented on how objectively fit someone's body parts are?

i as a female will admit that its natural finding someone attractive(or not), but erm...wanting to especially buy a paper where i can gawp at a "bottomless" pic of a man? no thanks! and im sure many fems i know will agree.

hmmm is it cos women are the 'prettier' sex, i wonder?!

(thanks once again for the blog, and apologies if ive offended anyone: that wasnt my intention.)


>>women do it big time and easily outdo men.

hmmm. interesting; so youre saying women 'superficially size up' the opposite sex more than the males do?

Soumyadip said...

'Women are the prettier sex.' No arguments about this. Agree. Totally.

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